Share Your Story
I loved this when I ran across it on Facebook. It is the essence of what I think I’ve been trying to say for the last two years.
Share your story.
You never know who might need to hear it. Right. Now.
She may feel exactly like you do, except she thinks she’s the only one.
She needs to know that she isn’t weird, or, lame, or alone
She needs to see how you’ve healed from your loss.
How you’ve survived the journey.
How you got through it, even if only barely.
She needs to know that it’s possible to change.
That it’s possible to be free from worry, and shame, and doubt, and fear.
Your story is her hope.
Look around you. Look across the room, look across the table. Look her in the eye and know this…
She needs you to share your story. If you don’t do it for you, do it for her.
We are not meant to walk this journey alone.
We get sucked into perfection for one very simple reason: We believe perfection will protect us. Perfectionism is the belief that if we live perfect, look perfect, and act perfect, we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgment, and shame.
We all need to feel worthy of love and belonging, and our worthiness is on the line when we feel like we are never ___ enough (you can fill in the blank: thin, beautiful, smart, extraordinary, talented, popular, promoted, admired, accomplished).
Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving to be our best. Perfectionism is not about healthy achievement and growth; it’s a shield. Perfectionism is a 20-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when, in fact, it’s the thing that’s really preventing us from being seen and taking flight.
Brene Brown, PhD
exceprted from Want to be Happy? Stop Trying to Be Perfect CNN Living