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You Are Irreplaceable

February 19, 2014

I am not a fun mom.

I don’t often take the time to play with my kids.

I’m focused on productivity. What’s next? Get it done. I don’t sit still, I don’t hang out. I have a hard time NOT doing two things at once. Watching TV? Fold laundry. Listening to a child read? Straighten up the bedroom.

Please don’t scold me. I should treasure these moments, I know I should. But, I’m just so used to moving fast that I forget to stop and enjoy the journey. I’ll try to do better. I promise!

I always find it amazing how much I get out of going around to different churches and MOPS groups. They invite me in to speak and share with them. I always come away with a pocketful (and sometimes more) of grace and encouragement myself.

Sunday, I heard a sweet mom named Ashley speak of how she felt she wasn’t a good mom. She spoke of her fatigue, working full time and caring for a preschooler. She felt she should be cooking more, cleaning more, doing more.

But then she said something that hung in the air, perfect and beautiful, manna from heaven.

“But despite all that, I know that to my family I am irreplaceable.”

Did you feel that?! It was like a blast of cold water in the face, wasn’t it?

Despite how little we think we’re doing, the bottom line is…to our families? We are irreplaceable.

The same group of women, we sat and thought about the Lie of the Inner You Stink. 

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A mom sitting next to me wrote this on her card. I’m sure we all could have written the same thing.

When I look at myself this way, when I stop and think…

I did play a few rounds of Mille Bornes last week.

I kissed them last night, just as I almost always do, tucking long-legged limbs back under covers and tugging them into the center of their beds so they don’t find themselves on the floor with the next dreamy sword-fight.

I stayed up late, making clean uniforms and matching socks appear magically on the foot of their beds, like I almost always do.

Perhaps I’m doing more than I give myself credit for.

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But then she turned it over and wrote this. Irreplaceable.

I make sure that the after-school snacks are a variety of awesome (chocolate) and healthy (bananas).

I am tooth fairy, laundry fairy, and Dinnertime Ninja. I can simultaneously correct homework, prepare dinner and load the dishwasher.

I give out hugs liberally and often. I tickle and give raspberry kisses on demand. I read them bedtime stories even when I’m tired, and I am teaching our new dog to kiss them goodnight.

But most importantly?

I am their mom, and I am irreplaceable.

I am irreplaceable

Your turn! What are you doing right?


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Perfectly Imperfect, Seeing Ourselves For What We Truly Are

Baxter Kruger on The Inner “You Stink”

Manifesto: A Cease Fire From a Working Mom

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11 Comments leave one →
  1. February 24, 2014 9:37 am

    Why are we so quick to only see what we’re NOT doing. I cannot fathom this is how God looks upon us. To Him we are irreplaceable, too. He chose to make us, despite the billions of people He’s already knit in wombs. I’m not even sure I need to think about what I’m doing right… because it’s my very ‘being’ that matters most. Thanks, Adele!

  2. February 25, 2014 12:47 pm

    I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for writing this. I am in tears, because this is exactly what I needed to hear. I am irreplaceable.

  3. February 25, 2014 12:51 pm

    I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for writing this. I am in tears, because it is exactly what I needed to hear. I am irreplaceable.💕

  4. February 25, 2014 1:03 pm

    Thanks for this! I’m not a very “fun” mom either. I read the crafty moms’ blogs, or rather, just see their photos on facebook, and think, I’m rather boring. But my kids must not mind too much; they want to start their own blogs, tell people about Jesus, the Bible, and science, and miss me terribly on Sundays after several hours apart.
    It’s such a joy knowing God doesn’t want me comparing myself to others, just to HImself and what He’s called me to be and do. 🙂
    PS Saw your post on the MOB facebook page!

  5. Heather permalink
    February 25, 2014 2:13 pm

    My problem is that I have had bad health and when I was laid down a lot I missed the times with my son or couldn’t do the things I wanted to. I want to do more and feel like anybody could be a better mom and wife than me. I needed to hear that I’m irreplaceable because the lie that I’m not has consumed me for two years and it needs to stop now.

    • February 25, 2014 3:00 pm

      Oh Heather, I pray that your health gets better. But YES! It is a lie – you are THE MOM God planned for your children, and NO ONE can be their mom better than you. You are enough, just as you are, and God will fill in whatever you lack – just as He does for all of us! With God, EVERYTHING is possible! Bless you!

  6. Patricia permalink
    February 27, 2014 11:30 am

    I often beat myself up after telling my 11 year old daughter that I cannot play right now. With no siblings home to play with she is often left to play alone. After reading your article I am a much better mom than i thought. I no longer have to feel I have let her down in some enormous way because I have to make dinner or supervise homework or do the enormous mound of laundry that piles up within minutes of unloading the washer/dryer! I do try and fit in trips to the nail salon or a special lunch for two a few times a month, just me and her time! Thank you for sharing!

    • February 27, 2014 11:33 am

      Patricia, it sounds like you are a wonderful mom! Trips to the nail salon…those are the things she’ll remember when she’s older. So glad you are allowing yourself that joy! Be blessed!

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